Things You Need To Know About Assisted Living For Parents

Things You Need To Know About Assisted Living For Parents


Are you worried about your aging parent? Perhaps your loved one fell at home a few months ago, or perhaps you have noticed that they are not taking their medication as prescribed. These are common concerns that can keep you up at night as you struggle to find the right way to keep your loved one healthy and happy.

However, it can be difficult to start the process of searching for assistance. The senior care industry is large, and anyone can feel lost or overwhelmed in the fray. Fortunately, we have compiled everything you need to know about a common and very helpful senior living level of care that could benefit your aging loved one: assisted living.


What is assisted living?

Assisted living provides long-term housing and care for seniors. Assisted living residents are generally active, but may need support with activities of daily living (ADLs) , such as bathing, dressing, and using the toilet. Seniors in assisted living can expect personalized care, nutritious meals, a wide range of social activities to cater to a variety of interests, and a sense of community in a safe, residential setting.


What are the benefits of assisted living?

While each community is different, assisted living offers services and amenities to focus on important aspects of senior wellness, including physical health, intellectual stimulation, and social connection. These three foundational pillars help slow cognitive decline and keep seniors healthier and happier longer.


Include Your Loved Ones in the Process

Just because you think your parents need help with medication management, transportation, and meals doesn’t mean they’ll feel the same way about their own needs for care. Your mom might be in denial about how much assistance with day-to-day activities she really needs, or your dad might be resistant to making the move to an assisted living facility.

That’s why it’s critical to include both your loved one and the rest of the family in the process of developing the plan. Actively listen to their concerns. Be responsive to their questions. This will show them that you hear their concerns and want their input on making the decision. The more inclusive you can be, the less likely you will later face roadblocks.




What Services are Offered at The Nursing Home?

You need to be looking for nursing homes that can provide the services and options you need, and one that can do it with excellence because your family deserves it. If a nursing home facility doesn’t offer a reliable skilled nursing service for its seniors, then that is a red flag. Trusting the life of a loved one in another’s hands is not an easy decision and should be weighed carefully.


Introduce the Amenities and Features

When talking to your parents, you should focus on the amenities and features offered in these assisted living communities. For example, did you know that the residents of these communities participate in daily physical activities to improve their health and mobility? Also, experienced chefs prepare delicious and nutritious meals for people in assisted living communities every day. This means that your loved ones will be able to get all the vitamins, minerals, and nutrients they need to live a healthy life. Also, specific food allergies will be taken into consideration to avoid illnesses and other health problems.


Understand how assisted living can help

Big changes can result in significant stress, especially when the person experiencing the change is elderly. When considering a new home for your parents, review the steps outlined in these articles:

Evaluate your loved one’s needs.

Start with an assessment of their activities of daily living, or ADLs. Can they bathe, dress, and move about easily? How much help do they already require?

Read up on what assisted living offers.

The phrase “assisted living” encompasses far more than people realize, but it’s not the same as nursing homes or memory care two different community types with more daily involvement and specialized care than what’s usually offered in assisted living.

Assisted living communities have evolved with the times. Many are rich with current amenities and activities while maintaining a level of care that allows your loved one to stay safe and healthy.

Talk to a Senior Living Advisor.


Do a background check

For assisted living facilities are on the National Center for Assisted Living’s website. The list also contains contact information for each state’s regulators, who can guide you on how to find information about a facility. Your state’s regulations

If your state requires a license for an assisted living facility, make sure it has one. Ask to review the most recent licensing report.

Licensing agencies may have online facility-complaint databases.

Make sure you clearly understand the terms, and if you have questions, get them answered before you sign. 

• How much are entrance fees and monthly rent, and is a security deposit required?

• What level of personal and health care services are provided?

• What privileges do residents have? For example, are they permitted to bring personal furniture?

• What are the transfer and discharge policies? What specific reasons would lead to a resident being asked to move out, and how much notice would be given?

• Is a resident’s space held if he or she has to be hospitalized?

• Does the contract put any limitations on your right to bring legal action for injury, negligence or other causes? Consumer Reports cautions that many residences include arbitration clauses, which require disputes to be settled outside the legal system via a third party.


How to Make the Transition to Assisted Living

Once you choose a community, your parent/s will be assessed by a staff member. This assessment is to ensure the community knows the medical history and needs of your loved one and that everyone is on the same page regarding expectations and costs. During your assessment time, the nursing staff will work with you to get medications and medical records transferred over to the community so there is no gap in care during the move.

After the assessment, you will be assigned a move-in date. The time before the move is bound to be stressful as you and your loved one work to pack up items to move, to donate, and to sell. Use this time to remind yourself and your loved one about the positive aspects of the new assisted living community. This is also a great time to schedule another meal at the community so that your loved one can meet a few new friends.

Finally, during move-in day, expect a hustle and bustle of activity. You and your parent/s will have assistance with moving in furniture and boxes, and staff will pop in to introduce themselves. No doubt you will also meet a few curious neighbors who pass by to welcome your loved one to their new home. Be sure to pick up the latest community newsletter and activity calendar so you can choose a few interesting events for your loved one to attend in the first week at their new home.

Sooner than you think, your loved one will feel at home in their new assisted living apartment. You will love hearing about delicious meals, new friends, and fun events. Most importantly, you will love knowing that your loved one is safe, healthy, and well-cared-for in their new assisted living home.



Contact Us


Braley Care Homes

6192 US 60

Hurricane, WV 25526


Phone Numbers:

Referrals and Inquiries: (304) 767-4033

Facility Phone: (304) 201-3677

Facility Fax: (304) 201-3678


Dealing with Dementia


Caring for a loved one with dementia poses many challenges for families and caregivers. People with dementia from conditions such as Alzheimer’s and related diseases have a progressive biological brain disorder that makes it more and more difficult for them to remember things, think clearly, communicate with others, and take care of themselves. In addition, dementia can cause mood swings and even change a person’s personality and behavior. This fact sheet provides some practical strategies for dealing with the troubling behavior problems and communication difficulties often encountered when caring for a person with dementia.

Dementia behavior: Confusion

Memory loss and confusion become more common as dementia progresses.

Memory loss can lead to confusion and confusion often manifests as a senior asking the same questions over and over, not recognizing formerly familiar people or places, or becoming disoriented. Caregivers who spend many hours with their loved one may hear phrases and answer questions on repeat: “I want to go home!” “This isn’t my house.” “When are we leaving?” “Why are we here?”


Common causes of confusion

Like many dementia behaviors, confusion can have a number of triggers or root causes. Factors that may contribute to disorientation include the following:

Sundown syndrome or delirium. Up to two-thirds of dementia patients experience sundown syndrome, an evening behavioral shift characterized by increased memory loss, agitation, confusion, and anger. “It may not exactly happen at sundown, but there’s always this hour the witching hour where suddenly the same person may completely change,” Hashmi says.

An unexpected change. Did your senior loved one just move to a new place? Did their routine change?

Paranoia and hallucinations. Dementia leads to complex changes in the brain, which can result in delusion. Seniors may see things that aren’t really there, develop false beliefs, or become suspicious of caregivers and loved ones.


Common changes in behaviour

In the middle to later stages of most types of dementia, a person may start to behave differently. This can be distressing for both the person with dementia and those who care for them.

Some common changes in behaviour include:

repeating the same question or activity over and over again

night-time waking and sleep disturbance

following a partner or spouse around everywhere

loss of self-confidence, which may show as apathy or disinterest in their usual activities

If you’re caring for someone who’s showing these behaviours, it’s important to try to understand why they’re behaving like this, which is not always easy.

You may find it reassuring to remember that these behaviours may be how someone is communicating their feelings. It may help to look at different ways of communicating with someone with dementia Sometimes these behaviours are not a dementia symptom. They can be a result of frustration with not being understood or with their environment, which they no longer find familiar but confusing.


Coping with dementia

As dementia progresses, each person will find their own way of coping with, and reacting and adapting to, the changes it brings. Developing these coping strategies can be a gradual and subconscious process.

The practical impact of dementia The psychological and emotional impact of dementia

You are here: Coping with dementia Carers: looking after yourself when supporting someone with dementia Understanding and supporting a person with dementia – useful organisations

Coping strategies may include:

practical strategies – eg setting up reminders or prompts, preparing advance decisions or a Lasting Power of Attorney for the future

social strategies – eg relying on family help, seeking spiritual support, joining new activity groups

emotional strategies – eg using humour, focusing on short-term pleasure or living for the moment, focusing on positive aspects

health improvement strategies – eg exercising more, adopting a healthier diet, cutting down on alcohol or smoking.

If a carer understands the person’s coping strategies, they will be able to support them better.


Handling Troubling Behavior

Some of the greatest challenges of caring for a loved one with dementia are the personality and behavior changes that often occur. You can best meet these challenges by using creativity, flexibility, patience, and compassion. It also helps to not take things personally and maintain your sense of humor.

To start, consider these ground rules:

We cannot change the person. The person you are caring for has a brain disorder that shapes who he has become. When you try to control or change his behavior, you’ll most likely be unsuccessful or be met with resistance. It’s important to:

Try to accommodate the behavior, not control the behavior. For example, if the person insists on sleeping on the floor, place a mattress on the floor to make him more comfortable.

Remember that we can change our behavior or the physical environment. Changing our own behavior will often result in a change in our loved one’s behavior.

Check with the doctor first. Behavioral problems may have an underlying medical reason: perhaps the person is in pain or experiencing an adverse side effect from medications. In some cases, like incontinence or hallucinations, there may be some medication or treatment that can assist in managing the problem.

Behavior has a purpose. People with dementia typically cannot tell us what they want or need. They might do something, like take all the clothes out of the closet on a daily basis, and we wonder why. It is very likely that the person is fulfilling a need to be busy and productive. Always consider what need the person might be trying to meet with their behavior and, when possible, try to accommodate them.

Behavior is triggered. It is important to understand that all behavior is triggered it occurs for a reason. It might be something a person did or said that triggered a behavior, or it could be a change in the physical environment. The root to changing behavior is disrupting the patterns that we create. Try a different approach, or try a different consequence.

What works today, may not tomorrow. The multiple factors that influence troubling behaviors, and the natural progression of the disease process, mean that solutions that are effective today may need to be modified tomorrow or may no longer work at all. The key to managing difficult behaviors is being creative and flexible in your strategies to address a given issue.

Get support from others. You are not alone there are many others caring for someone with dementia. Locate your nearest Area Agency on Aging, the local chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association, to find support groups, organizations, and services that can help you. Expect that, like the loved one you are caring for, you will have good days and bad days. Develop strategies for coping with the bad days.

The following is an overview of the most common dementia-associated behaviors, with suggestions that may be useful in handling them. You’ll find additional resources listed at the end of this fact sheet.


If you’re looking after someone with dementia

Your needs as a carer are as important as the person you’re caring for.

To help care for yourself:

Try to make some time for yourself, but if it’s difficult to leave the person alone, ask if someone can be with them for a while, such as a friend, relative, or someone from a support group


Contact Us


Braley Care Homes

6192 US 60

Hurricane, WV 25526


Phone Numbers:

Referrals and Inquiries: (304) 767-4033

Facility Phone: (304) 201-3677

Facility Fax: (304) 201-3678


Tips and Guide: Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s

Tips and Guide: Caring for someone with Alzheimer's

Alzheimer’s and Dementia Care: Help for Family Caregivers

Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia? This guide will help you cope with the challenges at each stage, find the support you need, and reap the rewards of caregiving.


Make a plan

As Alzheimer’s progresses, you may need more caregiving help, so it’s good to start out thinking long term. You can’t anticipate every situation, but being forward-thinking now will help you respond more quickly and effectively in an emergency.

It’s also key to spread caregiving tasks around your team from the get-go. You can’t do it all.

Build your team. Beyond medical professionals, reach out to friends, family and community resources to form a larger network of caregiving helpmates.

Determine tasks. Ask team members what they’re willing to do to contribute to your loved one’s care. Is someone available to travel to medical appointments? Prepare meals a few times a week? Even if team members live far away , they can handle jobs like ordering prescriptions or paying bills. Encourage them to stay connected to your loved one; dementia can be extremely isolating.

Listen to your loved one. To the extent possible, the person you’re caring for should always participate in discussions about needs and plans. Consider the recipient of your care the most important member of your caregiving team.



For many people with Alzheimer’s disease, bathing is a frightening and confusing experience. Elders may think they have showered recently, but in reality their last shower was days or even weeks ago. They can become confused by the process or become afraid of the water and the possibility of falling. Sensitivity to these issues and planning ahead can help make bath time easier on both of you.

Make sure you have all bath products, towels and assistive devices you need set up before bringing your loved one into the bathroom. Draw the bath ahead of time.

Be sensitive to the temperature of the water and the air. Warm up the room beforehand if necessary, and keep extra towels and a robe nearby. Test the water temperature before beginning the bath or shower.

Minimize safety risks by using a hand-held showerhead, a shower bench, grab bars, and nonskid bath mats. Never leave the person alone in the bathtub or shower.

If they need help bathing, move slowly and tell the person what you are going to do step by step. Allow him or her to assist in the process as much as possible.

Bathing may not be necessary every day. A sponge bath can be effective between full showers or baths.

Bathing Tips and Techniques for Dementia Caregivers


Getting dressed may not seem very complicated, but Alzheimer’s patients and caregivers face some unique hurdles with this task. Both physical and cognitive decline affect an elder’s ability to recognize when it is time to change soiled clothes, choose appropriate items to wear, and take off/put on clothing and footwear. Minimizing these challenges can make a significant difference in a loved one’s sense of control and independence.

Always set aside extra time before outings and appointments so they can dress themselves as much as they are able without added pressure or having to rush.

Allow them to choose what they want to wear from a limited selection of outfits. If he or she has a favorite outfit or clothing item, consider buying multiples or the same style in a few different colors.

Store some clothes in another room to reduce the number of options they have to choose from. Too many options can overwhelm Alzheimer’s patients who are trying to make a decision. Keep only a couple of outfits in their closet or dresser.

Arrange clothing items in the order they are put on to help guide them through the process.

Choose clothing that is comfortable, easy to get on and off, and easy to care for. Dressing aids and adaptive clothing items featuring elastic waistbands and Velcro closures minimize struggles with finicky fasteners like buttons, zippers and shoe laces.

Personal Care and Dressing Products for Seniors


Ensuring that your loved one is eating enough nutritious foods and drinking enough fluids is a challenge. People with dementia literally begin to forget that they need to eat and drink. Complicating the issue may be dental problems or medications that decrease appetite or make food taste “funny.” The consequences of poor nutrition are many, including weight loss, irritability, sleeplessness, bladder or bowel problems, and disorientation.

Make meal and snack times part of the daily routine and schedule them around the same time every day. Instead of three big meals, try five or six smaller ones.

Make mealtimes a special time. Try flowers or soft music. Turn off loud radio programs and the TV.

Eating independently should take precedence over eating neatly or with “proper” table manners. Finger foods support independence. Pre-cut and season the food. Try using a straw or a child’s “sippy cup” if holding a glass has become difficult. Provide assistance only when necessary and allow plenty of time for meals.

Sit down and eat with your loved one. Often they will mimic your actions, and it makes the meal more pleasant to share it with someone.

Prepare foods with your loved one in mind. If they have dentures or trouble chewing or swallowing, use soft foods or cut food into bite-size pieces.

If chewing and swallowing are issues, try gently moving the person’s chin in a chewing motion or lightly stroking their throat to encourage them to swallow.

If loss of weight is a problem, offer nutritious high-calorie snacks between meals. Breakfast foods high in carbohydrates are often preferred. On the other hand, if the problem is weight gain, keep high-calorie foods out of sight. Instead, keep handy fresh fruits, veggie trays, and other healthy low-calorie snacks.

Address safety concerns

You’ll need to consider a range of potential hazards, and they’ll change over time. Is it safe for your loved one to drive? Is the recipient of your care prone to falling, or at risk of wandering and getting lost?

You eventually may need to make home modifications and acquire special equipment such as a hospital bed or lift chair. Useful tools also can help prevent wandering and other safety issues common to dementia patients.

Prevent falls . Some basic, low-cost changes include removing trip hazards such as throw rugs, making sure the home is well lit (use automatic nightlights) and installing safety features such as handrails, grab bars and adjustable shower seats.

Stop them from wandering. Six out of 10 people with dementia wander from home at least once, and many do so repeatedly, according to the Alzheimer’s Association. A predictable routine can help avoid disorientation and subsequent excursions. You might also consider installing remote door locks or alarms, or locks far above or below eye level. The Alzheimer’s Association offers a 24-hour nationwide emergency response system, MedicAlert with Wandering Support , for an annual subscription fee.

Anticipate other risks. Dementia brings with it particular worries about self-injury. To lower the risk, keep medications in a locked drawer or cabinet, disable the stove when not in use and lower the water heater temperature to 120 degrees Fahrenheit or less.

Recognize driving dangers. Impaired driving isn’t only a danger to the driver. It can and does harm others. Discuss your concerns with your loved one. If the person is resistant to giving up the car keys, consider asking a physician to weigh in. Be empathetic about the loss of freedom, a common fear.


Toileting and Incontinence Care

As the disease progresses, many people with Alzheimer’s begin to experience toileting difficulties and reduced bladder and bowel control. Incontinence can be upsetting and embarrassing for a senior and difficult for their caregiver to address and manage. Sometimes incontinence is indicative of a physical illness, such as a urinary tract infection (UTI) , so be sure to discuss changes with their doctor as soon as possible.

Practice timed voiding where you create a bathroom schedule and stick to it as closely as possible. For example, take toileting breaks every three hours during the day, and don’t wait for the person to ask. This includes tracking when accidents happen to help plan ways of avoiding them.

Watch for nonverbal cues that an elder may have to go to the bathroom, such as restlessness or pulling at clothes, and act quickly.

To prevent nighttime accidents, limit fluid intake in the evening hours just before bedtime.

Plan ahead for outings. Look up restroom locations, have the senior wear simple, easy-to-remove clothing, and bring an extra set of clothes and incontinence supplies in case of an accident.



When to seek professional help

A person may require professional help if they need full assistance with daily and personal care activities.

People who have Alzheimer’s disease will require more care as their condition progresses. Caregivers may need assistance in performing physically demanding tasks, such as bathing, moving, or dressing a person.

Caregivers may want to consider seeking professional help if their loved one:

  • requires full assistance with daily and personal care activities
  • loses the ability to walk
  • experiences a seizure
  • unexpectedly loses a significant amount of body weight
  • experiences a fall or other type of injury
  • has periods of anxiety or agitation
  • tends to wander away or get lost

Caregivers who experience adverse health effects, such as chronic stress, fatigue, or depression, may require professional assistance.

Ultimately, it is up to the caregiver and their family to decide when to seek professional help.

Contact Us


Braley Care Homes

6192 US 60

Hurricane, WV 25526


Phone Numbers:

Referrals and Inquiries: (304) 767-4033

Facility Phone: (304) 201-3677

Facility Fax: (304) 201-3678


When is it time for Memory Care?

When is it time for Memory Care?

How do you know when it’s the right time?

Knowing when someone with dementia should move into residential or nursing care can be difficult. The main thing to think about is whether your loved one’s needs are met at home; is moving into a care home in their best interest?

When should a person with dementia go into a care home?

If a person’s dementia has progressed far enough that they need more care and support than you can provide, it may be time for them to go into a care home. At this point, they may need 24-hour care.

Dementia is progressive, meaning the person with the condition will require more care and support as time goes on. As your loved one’s condition declines, their needs increase and you may not be able to fully meet these needs despite your best efforts.

This is one example of the number of reasons why it might be time for people with dementia to move into a care home. Other reasons include hospital admissions, worry about your loved one’s safety or their behaviour becomes unmanageable.

There is no cure for dementia and the physical and mental state of a person living with the condition will only worsen. There will never be a perfect time because of the stress and emotional difficulties , but if they need 24-hour supervision and support to stay safe and to ensure good quality of life, the only option may be to move into residential care.

One idea is to write a list of your loved one’s needs and if you are able to support them. For example:

My wife cannot safely go outside on her own – I can only take her outside in the mornings Can I guarantee she won’t leave the house without me? – No, it worries me when I’m not there If you go down the list and notice that you are unable to provide the care and support necessary for your loved one, taking into account your other commitments in life, it may the right time to consider residential care.

If your loved one is unable to live independently and cannot care for themselves anymore, moving into a residential setting will give them the benefit of 24-hour care and support. This will give you peace of mind that your loved one is safe and that they receive the right level of care.


Why It is Beneficial to Start a Memory Care Search Early

From finding and touring memory care residences to finalizing legal documents to managing the memory care move, it will take at least 2 months to sort out the logistics of moving your loved one into memory care. For most families, 3-4 months is more normal. Financial hurdles, like getting covered by Medicaid obtaining VA pension benefits other payment support will take even longer. Even with professional financial planning assistance , it can take 6 months to arrange payment.

If you are considering memory care at an unknown point in the future, then it is probably time to start investigating the process now.

It is highly advantageous to be prepared when the times comes for memory care rather than to be scrambling. The onset of the need for memory care is just as like to be sudden as it is to be gradual. Patient behavior can change dramatically accelerating the need for memory care. However, unexpected changes with primary caregivers is just as likely to initiative the need. Since many caregivers are spouses and elderly themselves and they often push themselves beyond their own limits, caregiver injuries are more common than thought.

Another benefit of starting early is that it can let your loved one actually have a say in the decision. Making the decision in later stages of the disease, when the largest stakeholder can’t communicate well because of symptoms, will only exacerbate emotions including the guilty feelings that often come with this change.

The sooner the preparation begins, the more likely it is to be a positive transition.


Concerns About Day-to-Day Care

The most common concern of family caregivers is that their loved one isn’t getting good care. This can be hard to adjust to, because while family caregivers typically care for one person, nursing assistants are usually assigned to eight or more people at a time. And while many have experience and are sensitive to the needs of the people in their care, some have little training.

The best way to deal with any concerns about care is to talk to the staff member involved in a calm way. Most of the time, the issue can be solved this way. If not, talk to the administrator or nursing director.

It’s also a good idea to build good relationships with the care providers. Remember that staff members work hard, have schedules and other pressures, and want to be treated with consideration and respect. Visit the facility often, and share what you know. Tell them what’s being done well, and gently let them know what you’d like to see and when you don’t see it.


Caregiver stress

Caregiving for a loved one with memory care is a 24/7 occupation.

Without engaging in regular respite care , it becomes impossible to sustain the situation. Even with qualified, in-home care providers, those with mid to later stages of memory loss require increasing levels of medical assistance, and the enormity of unceasing tasks is more than almost any household can accommodate.

If you’re approaching, or have already reached, a point where caregiving is all-consuming, it’s time to consider memory care.

Similarly, if you find yourself a member of the “Sandwich Generation” , stuck between an aging parent requiring care, a job and the needs of your own family, memory care is a must or else you’ll quickly go from being a caregiver to needing a caregiver of your own.

As memory loss sets in, so do the abilities to drive a car , make grocery lists, prepare food, remember daily medications, or even remember to eat.

Losing track of days and times has a disastrous effect on the circadian rhythm, contributing to Sundowner’s syndrome, insomnia and other sleep disorders that take on toll on one’s health and well-being.

Physical signs include:

Rapid weight loss

Lack of food in the fridge or cabinets

Evidence of medication not taken (or overtaken)

Neglected personal hygiene

Hunched or sunken posture

Inexplicable bruises, breaks and/or injuries

Unpaid bills and missed appointments

The inability to remember how to get home or where one is going puts patients at risk for injury, getting lost or becoming victims of scams and potentially violent crimes.

Similarly, those with dementia are more prone to being injured at home and are less able to remember how to seek help, forgetting to press a “life alert’ button or how to use the phone to call 911.

If you find yourself worrying about a loved ones’ well-being on a regular basis, the transition to memory care brings peace of mind while simultaneously ensuring s/he is supported, attended to and cared for day-in and day-out.


Finding the right care home for someone with dementia

To find the best care home according to your loved one’s needs, the first thing to do is to request a needs assessment from your local council’s social services.

Your local authority will make recommendations about your loved one’s care and also conduct a financial assessment as they may contribute to some of the costs.

As mentioned earlier, planning in advance will make the choice of care home easier as you will have more information about your loved one’s preferences and wishes.

A residential care home will be able to provide personal care, such as washing and dressing while a nursing home have a qualified nurse on site 24-hours a day.



Contact Us


Braley Care Homes

6192 US 60

Hurricane, WV 25526


Phone Numbers:

Referrals and Inquiries: (304) 767-4033

Facility Phone: (304) 201-3677

Facility Fax: (304) 201-3678